If you are in a bad relationship of any kind, don't be afraid to close bad doors to open better ones. If you are lying to yourself, to the people around you, change it - start today. Living honestly, and loving genuinely, it could be the best things for you to get the most out of this one life you have to live. There's nothing like life's challenges to weed out friends, and true family that will come through in your time of need. Although I'm upset at the way life cornered me, I realized it was so I can find better people in my life. It was so I can see who would give me the same love, I give them. It was so I can find good people, real people, and not waste my days on people who would look the other way the second I needed them.
Real friends and family should want to help you without wanting or gaining anything in return. They should want to know about you, and be in your life - care about you unconditionally. All of it just the way you are towards them.
Now if you're reading this and you've lost friendships. Think about why you may have. Did you take the person for granted? How much of yourself did you give for this friendship? When you had talks, did you do the talking or listening? I've had far too many relationships in my life where I was always the listener, and never the talker. It was never mutual, I was always taking care of people. I've had to let go of friends where it was just draining me to have them as "friends", I'd get long phone calls, where we'd hang up and I realize I never spoke about me or my problems. It was always about them, always about their problems. Most times, they'd forget to ask. I'm sure they meant well, and didn't realize..or so I say each and every time. It took me having children of my own to not have time for it anymore, and see those "friendships" for what it was. Do you have friendships like this? I know my friends didn't mean to be the way they were, but it just was. I know my friends meant well, but for us it was too late to change the dynamics of our friendship that was structured wrong for too long. It has to be seen from both sides of the relationship to get fixed.
It has taken many years to force myself to make changes, and see people for who they were in my life. No one should live their lives giving so much love and energy without ever getting the same in return. I used to explain myself, write long messages, make excuses on peoples behalves, until one day I just had enough. It was a like a light switch, I was done.
What changes are you making in your relationships lately? Care to share? Don't waste this one short life you have to live on people who don't deserve your time, and make sure you are treating everyone in your life right too. Don't be over sensitive or too quick to conclusions as well. Respect each other's lives, and understand everyone lives & lovely differently.