Tips to help our children have a lifelong friendship:
- Don't compare one to the other as an example of how they didn't do well at something. Don't compare. Respect them as individuals. They have different strengths and interests. Remind yourself, remind them.
- Speaking of differences. Teach them to give to one another. From support, gifts to the simple drawings. Remind them since they are their own individuals, they get to have their own special moments for whatever the occasion, and how they can be supportive without jealousy.
- Teach our children to love and respect one another no matter the age difference. Younger or older, both can be right, as well as wrong. Remind them to teach and learn from one another.
- Don't criticize or give long lectures when they are wrong at your children in front of the other. Specially when you are upset. Children mimic the behavior they see, often without full understanding.
- Pay attention to your children. Are they speaking respectively to one another? Make sure they are, teach them when they are young. The simplest things can be instilled in them, like good morning greetings, hugs and kisses, and of course good night.
- Be the guide, be supportive of their bond. Give them small projects to do together, help them grow their natural born friendship.
- Remind them that, they are to be there for each other without judgment in life, someone that knows who they truly are from the beginning.
- Don't assume they will be friends and will get along forever naturally, remind them that they actually should be friends. Like any other relationship in life, friendships take effort.
- Lastly, be an example. Love them equally, treat them well and they'll follow your lead.
"Family doesn't mean someone you can do anything, say anything to without consequences. It's people you respect, love and support unconditionally in life."
*For those only child families, of course you know this bond applies to close cousins and childhood friends growing up together *Family*❤️